Day 19 of NO COMPLAINING: The Spirit of Forgiveness

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 19 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello!

Why do we complain? Something is:  offensive, worrisome, bothersome, perceived as a hindrance, are some of the answers I’ve gotten.

What’s your answer?

Write about this in your NO COMPLAINING journal.

As you peel that onion of an answer back a bit, you will no doubt get to a place of un-forgiveness.

Whether it’s forgiving yourself for complaining or forgiving yourself for getting into the situation you’re complaining about or forgiving yourself for being stuck in a complaining place for a long time over some issue…WHATEVER it is, you must forgive yourself for, that’s just it, you MUST forgive yourself!

A lack of forgiveness is the cancer that grows in our spirit and emotions that creates the environment for complaints.

So what can you release today? What can you forgive yourself for?

Who can you forgive today? WHO are you blaming for something? That state of blame is a complaint that took a seat in your life.

When will you open the door and say good-bye to blame?

If it were possible and you could RELEASE ALL that has you tied to a state of un-forgiveness…release all the baggage of regrets, blame, judgment, worry, agitation, complaints, etc…if you could RELEASE it all today, what could you do with the space created?

For one, I know you’d become a compliment factory!! 🙂
(How about giving five fabulous compliments today?)

So,

  • Consider these questions and ideas.
  • Reflect on your answers
  • Go deeper than the surface
  • Peel the onion back, write, pray and meditate…whatever you do to get to your source.
  • Get there and stay for a bit.

Have a magnificent day my wonderful friends — to commit to no complaints for 21 days makes you a VERY special group of people and I am not looking forward to the end of our connection …:-)

Wishing you Peace, Love & Light…and LIGHTNESS too!

Julette Millien
♥~

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Day 18 of 21 Days of No Complaining

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 18 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello!

Thank you Arielle for the reminder of Pam’s prayer…it is lovely.

Pam Lewis shared this:

Today I Pray

May the word freedom take on new meanings for me, not just “freedom from” my addiction of complaining, but “freedom to” overcome it. Not just freedom from the slavery of self-will, but freedom to hear and carry out the will of my Higher Power.

Today I Will Remember

Freedom from means freedom to.
(the freedom FROM complaining means the freedom TO give, see and share more love)”

This is powerful because it takes what could be a passive statement and turns it into an active statement of intent.

I am not only interested in “freedom FROM” something but I am also claiming the freedom TO DO something.

What are the things you’d like to DO more of?

What’s holding you back?

Reflect today on what might need to be released (become free from) in order to be free to DO…

THANK YOU Pam!

Have a magnificent day as you share compliments freely and refrain from complaining in thought or deed.

GoDoBe

With Love,

Julette Millien

♥~

Day 17 of 21 Days of No Complaining

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 17 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello Hello,

This morning as I silently sat and was still the answer came to the question, “what should I tell the ‘no complainers’ today?”

“Tell them about love and fear” the answer came after only about 1 minute of silence.

That was fast, I thought.

Love and Fear...the connection to complaining and complimenting is this:

Love in your heart, your thoughts, your emotions, your spirit, produces gratitude, COMPLIMENTS for others and for yourself, wisdom, other-centeredness, forgiveness, perspective, joy, peace, grace, mercy, lasting legacies, activism, accountability, and on and on.

Fear in your heart, thoughts, emotions and spirit produces angst, irritation, COMPLAINTS, intolerance, worry, unforgiveness, false pride, inflated ego, passive aggressiveness – you know, where you say you’re not complaining but internally you’re a ball of fury, impatience, self-centeredness, anxiety, etc, etc.

I suggest to you with every opportunity you have today to choose fear or to choose love, CHOOSE LOVE.

Choose love when you are in traffic and feel tempted to complain
Choose love when your child disappoints you – say it with love
Choose love when a neighbor, friend or family member is hostile
Choose love when a colleague takes all the credit for a team effort
Choose love when you are excluded from ANYTHING
Choose love when you are blamed or accused falsely
Choose love when someone stops loving you or showing you love
Choose love when you forgive without an apology
Choose love when someone complains to you
Choose love when your love is ignored
Choose love when your mind or thought or emotions say different
Choose love.

Have a deeply loving and joy-filled day.
Julette Millien
♥♥♥~

Day 16 of 21 Days of No Complaining

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 16 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello!

I am blessed by this effort – your messages and participation are heart warming. Thank you so very much.

Today I must be very brief.

1)  Please observe very closely how your thoughts pop up today. When a complaint begins to form…just observe, become an observer, a journalist and just observe. See if you can get any insights about how and when you begin to get a hint of complaining in your spirit/emotions/thinking.

2)  Write about what you find.

3)  Compliment three different people today.

4)  Let yourself be one of them.

5)  Have a magnificent time with these activities!

Oh – 6) how about a random act of kindness today? That’s one sure way to have a truly magnificent day.

Wishing you an abundance of love, peace and light,

Julette Millien

♥~
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Day 15 of 21 Days of No Complaining!

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 15 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello!

If you recall our journey had 4 parts to it – and it’s based on a fast from complaining I participated in at my church. Dr. Therman Evans, my Pastor led the journey. His facebook fan page is here:

http://www.facebook.com/drThermanEvans

Here are the steps we committed to: (from event wall)

1.  Refrain from negative comments: speak positive and think positively about our self, family, friends, neighbors and others.
2.  Complain about nothing: be complimentary about everything and everybody.
3.  Look for what is good in everything.
4.  Ask God for a transformation (Romans 12:1-2).

[Take me to the next level of promise, take my relationship to the next level of promise, take my place of worship to the next level of promise]

So far we’ve been concentrating pretty well on 1, 2 and 3.

Today I’m suggesting that we focus on #4

ASK God (insert, based on your culture and beliefs the name of your source) for what you’d like to have in your life, with specific regard to the transformation required to turn a complaining disposition into a consistently optimistic and love centered one.

ASK for it. Don’t just assume it’ll come. Often we fail to ask for what we seek in life and that blocks the process of receiving.

ASK a loved one to have a different relationship, one based on no complaining. Go through all your relationships, and one by one, ASK for the transformation you seek for each one.

SEE yourself as fully transformed. Visualize the way you will be speaking to yourself, to your family, friends, children, students, colleagues, neighbors, mentors, clients, strangers, customer service reps, support staff, employees, service professionals, etc, etc,

VISUALIZE these conversations.

CELEBRATE your success to date!! Because what you see as you visualize is what you have created!

Have a magnificent day my dear friends! 🙂

Peace, Love and Joy to each of you.

Julette Millien

♥~

All previous messages are here ►http://successhabitsin21days.com

Day 14 of 21 Days of NO COMPLAINING!

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 14 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello Lovely People!

Day 13 went by without a message…the day flew by with one meeting or activity after another! I missed connecting with you! 🙂

And today I will simply suggest that you:

1)  Find 10 minutes to be completely alone. Use that time as you see fit with this one guideline: Whatever you do let it be positive and affirming.

2)  Then find the good in as many people and situations as you can.

Reflect on this goodness.

3)  Compliment often and sincerely…all through the day!

4) Complain about nothing.

Wishing you ABUNDANT love, joy and light!

Julette Millien
♥♥♥

P.S. Previous messages are here► http://successhabitsin21days.com

Day 12 of 21 Days of NO COMPLAINING!

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 12 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello Lovely People,

I hope this message reaches you in the best of health.

I’ve got a few questions:

1)    What purpose does complaining serve in your life? (see event wall for Lana’s insightful thoughts on this)

Consider this question seriously. It’s not meant to be a trick question. If you have a habit of complaining chances are it’s filling some void or providing some benefit.

Consider what that might be. Getting to the root of the what’s behind our actions provides valuable insight.

When we cast the light of knowledge and compassion on an issue it’s much more likely to be changed.

Habits are powerful and persistent. Changing them takes persistence, honest assessments, compassion and daily action.

2)   What pains, hurts and unresolved issues exists in your life that might be making it easier to have a complaining mindset?

Honor what exists.

3)   What else can you do to fill the need complaining fills?

4)   What have you been able to accomplish with the space you created by NOT complaining?

5)   What changes do you need to make in your life to maintain a NO COMPLAINING lifestyle?

Suggested activities:

1)   Make a list of all your good and positive qualities – acknowledge and honor these aspects of yourself.

2)   Forgive yourself for all — ALL — of your “mis-takes” All together they’ve added to who you are…which #1 activity says you’re pretty magnificent! 🙂

Have a wonderful day/evening…filled with love, peace, joy and light,

Julette Millien

♥~

Again, previous messages are all at http://successhabitsin21days.com
Begin at August 8th – just click on the calendar.