Taking Right Actions; Are you in control? Day 10

Hi there!

Yesterday, I wasn’t in touch with you and I felt the difference! 🙂

December has always been a lighter month for me with my work BUT something is different this year. In previous years I’ve made a deliberate attempt to slow down. It’s usually a month of organizing, reflecting and personal connections…this year, work is so intense I’ve hardly slowed down. Added to which the holiday season now is here and brings with it a whole other set of functions and activities.

These next two weeks will be magnificent! I claim it and so it is. 🙂

In the midst of activities, fast and furious it’s even more important to stay with inner peace.

Another treadmill insight for you! lol

This morning, there I was again reading and walking…found myself feeling pretty out of breath. I took note because the heart monitor thingy wasn’t working and I wasn’t doing anything so different with the workout to be winded…within moments of this thought, the person behind me stopped singing out loud in an odd voice and the machine next to me (where my husband was) suddenly went to a much slower pace.
Guess what happened? I just as suddenly was no longer out of breath!

Without realizing it I was totally affected by the noise, the pace and probably the slight irritation of the bad singing! This was reflected in my heart rate.

My lesson and yours too if you so desire… TUNE FOLKS OUT SOMETIMES!! If we go on automatic, people can really have a profound impact on our emotions AND heart rate even! Know what’s going on, recognize it for whatever it is and tune it out if necessary.

Don’t let people derail you from your best life, your best emotions and your best right actions.

Stay the course by placing them and all in perspective.

When I realized what happened, I decided to hear the singing differently. [Yes, he started back up] I heard it as a loved one singing for the first time in years because s/he had been unable to speak. Suddenly, it was heard differently and with pleasure.

AMAZING the control over our own self we all have.

What can you take more control of today?

What’s impacting you without your awareness or conscious consent?

Consider and reflect. Then take control. It may not seem or feel like it, but you are in control of all that you feel, think and do. It’s all a matter of choice.

Are you doing your daily actions – working on your project – creating a powerful habit of daily right action?

I hope it’s YES • YES • YES •!!!

The ONLY thing to do if it’s not, is FORGIVE yourself and move on. Each moment is an opportunity for a new life. You have to just take the first step in that direction.

I encourage you to share with your accountability partner, share with our journey members on the event wall and write in your journal. You will make this experience richer for yourself and for others as you share.

Wishing you an abundance of peace, joy and love,
Julette Millien

Day 19 of NO COMPLAINING: The Spirit of Forgiveness

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 19 of our journey together.  See event details here.



Why do we complain? Something is:  offensive, worrisome, bothersome, perceived as a hindrance, are some of the answers I’ve gotten.

What’s your answer?

Write about this in your NO COMPLAINING journal.

As you peel that onion of an answer back a bit, you will no doubt get to a place of un-forgiveness.

Whether it’s forgiving yourself for complaining or forgiving yourself for getting into the situation you’re complaining about or forgiving yourself for being stuck in a complaining place for a long time over some issue…WHATEVER it is, you must forgive yourself for, that’s just it, you MUST forgive yourself!

A lack of forgiveness is the cancer that grows in our spirit and emotions that creates the environment for complaints.

So what can you release today? What can you forgive yourself for?

Who can you forgive today? WHO are you blaming for something? That state of blame is a complaint that took a seat in your life.

When will you open the door and say good-bye to blame?

If it were possible and you could RELEASE ALL that has you tied to a state of un-forgiveness…release all the baggage of regrets, blame, judgment, worry, agitation, complaints, etc…if you could RELEASE it all today, what could you do with the space created?

For one, I know you’d become a compliment factory!! 🙂
(How about giving five fabulous compliments today?)


  • Consider these questions and ideas.
  • Reflect on your answers
  • Go deeper than the surface
  • Peel the onion back, write, pray and meditate…whatever you do to get to your source.
  • Get there and stay for a bit.

Have a magnificent day my wonderful friends — to commit to no complaints for 21 days makes you a VERY special group of people and I am not looking forward to the end of our connection …:-)

Wishing you Peace, Love & Light…and LIGHTNESS too!

Julette Millien

How to Forgive Yourself – Day #2 of 21 Days of Action with Forgiveness

Forgiving yourself is necessary!

Easier said than done right?

I know, words are so easy to say and truths to spout.  But how do you really forgive yourself, if you don’t already have a habit of forgiveness?

An assumption is being made here and here it is: I am assuming that you believe that forgiveness is right and good; that it is the way to live that brings peace and joy.  This is my assumption as I suggest the following.

Loving yourself; forgiving yourself is possible when you have a desire to or, you already love yourself. So are you “feeling” worthy of love – yours or someone else’s? Are you loving you?

If not, stay here for a minute and create a miracle. Change your mindset about that.  Just do it.

  • Decide that loving yourself is all that really makes sense.
  • Decide that you are worthy of love because you exist. Period.

It might be different for you but for me,

  • I think of God and the power of love.
  • I think of the life of Jesus and how much He endured because of his love for me.
  • I think of the healing and miraculous power of love, which is God and I wonder how can I be anything but lovable when I was created by, with and for love!

ONCE you are clear about being a magnificent creation of love, forgiving yourself becomes a natural outcome.

Not forgiving you for mistakes causes pain, guilt, stress, anxiety – why would you do that to someone you love?

Mistakes are common; they occur everyday, big ones and little ones.  They are a fact of life.  And NO ONE goes  through life without making them.

Mistakes HOW we learn and how we GROW.

Thinking you are perfect and so mistakes are not forgivable is egotistical.

So get over yourself and accept your humanity – which by definition means you WILL be making mistakes!  Then, move on from there and accept how lovable you are.

What’s the obvious next step?

Yes, FORGIVE yourself for all you have done or not done to this point SO THAT you can move on to live a life of love and wellness.

Without this forgiveness of self, you will not have the life of your dreams.

Day 2 Assignment:

1. Review your list of things (in your forgiveness journal) to forgive and select something you will see and feel differently about TODAY.

2. Write about that choice and why you are releasing the guilt.

3. Write out what you are forgiving yourself for on a piece of paper and ceremoniously destroy that piece of paper

4. Do Forgiveness Ritual – sent earlier

5. Check in with accountability partner and discuss forgiveness process, actions taken and your intentions

If anxiety sneaks in, just say ‘hey’ and stay on your program.  Really!

Anxiety is adrenalin and a rush of adrenalin means you are living life to the fullest, or trying to!

Stick with what you know is right and try not to rely solely on your ‘feelings.’

In Light and with Love,

♥ ♥ ♥

Getting Up is all that matters!

Powerful Habits in 21 Days  – PH 21
Day #9

I have to be very brief today.

Today is our 9th day together on this program and the messages are coming in fast and furious!  Folks are right in the thick of things, accomplishing, stumbling, encouraging…(How could  I not love my “work?”)

Here’s the short thought for today:  It DOES NOT matter how hard the fall, all that matters is how (and when) you GET UP.

A group member responded to someone else yesterday with… “just forgive yourself and move on.”

Simple, elegant and profound thought:  Just do it.

Until Tomorrow! (JUST 12 MORE days! 🙂 )

To Our Success,