Day 19 of NO COMPLAINING: The Spirit of Forgiveness

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 19 of our journey together.  See event details here.



Why do we complain? Something is:  offensive, worrisome, bothersome, perceived as a hindrance, are some of the answers I’ve gotten.

What’s your answer?

Write about this in your NO COMPLAINING journal.

As you peel that onion of an answer back a bit, you will no doubt get to a place of un-forgiveness.

Whether it’s forgiving yourself for complaining or forgiving yourself for getting into the situation you’re complaining about or forgiving yourself for being stuck in a complaining place for a long time over some issue…WHATEVER it is, you must forgive yourself for, that’s just it, you MUST forgive yourself!

A lack of forgiveness is the cancer that grows in our spirit and emotions that creates the environment for complaints.

So what can you release today? What can you forgive yourself for?

Who can you forgive today? WHO are you blaming for something? That state of blame is a complaint that took a seat in your life.

When will you open the door and say good-bye to blame?

If it were possible and you could RELEASE ALL that has you tied to a state of un-forgiveness…release all the baggage of regrets, blame, judgment, worry, agitation, complaints, etc…if you could RELEASE it all today, what could you do with the space created?

For one, I know you’d become a compliment factory!! 🙂
(How about giving five fabulous compliments today?)


  • Consider these questions and ideas.
  • Reflect on your answers
  • Go deeper than the surface
  • Peel the onion back, write, pray and meditate…whatever you do to get to your source.
  • Get there and stay for a bit.

Have a magnificent day my wonderful friends — to commit to no complaints for 21 days makes you a VERY special group of people and I am not looking forward to the end of our connection …:-)

Wishing you Peace, Love & Light…and LIGHTNESS too!

Julette Millien

Day 12 of 21 Days of NO COMPLAINING!

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 12 of our journey together.  See event details here.


Hello Lovely People,

I hope this message reaches you in the best of health.

I’ve got a few questions:

1)    What purpose does complaining serve in your life? (see event wall for Lana’s insightful thoughts on this)

Consider this question seriously. It’s not meant to be a trick question. If you have a habit of complaining chances are it’s filling some void or providing some benefit.

Consider what that might be. Getting to the root of the what’s behind our actions provides valuable insight.

When we cast the light of knowledge and compassion on an issue it’s much more likely to be changed.

Habits are powerful and persistent. Changing them takes persistence, honest assessments, compassion and daily action.

2)   What pains, hurts and unresolved issues exists in your life that might be making it easier to have a complaining mindset?

Honor what exists.

3)   What else can you do to fill the need complaining fills?

4)   What have you been able to accomplish with the space you created by NOT complaining?

5)   What changes do you need to make in your life to maintain a NO COMPLAINING lifestyle?

Suggested activities:

1)   Make a list of all your good and positive qualities – acknowledge and honor these aspects of yourself.

2)   Forgive yourself for all — ALL — of your “mis-takes” All together they’ve added to who you are…which #1 activity says you’re pretty magnificent! 🙂

Have a wonderful day/evening…filled with love, peace, joy and light,

Julette Millien


Again, previous messages are all at
Begin at August 8th – just click on the calendar.