Do you have ordinary or extra-ordinary daily habits?

A person says, “I’m tired of being ordinary!” 

The coach responds, “So what are your daily habits like?”

 

Oh I watch 3-6 hours of TV every day – Habit: TV viewer

Habit of the extra-ordinary: little to no casual TV viewing

 

I can get up around 9 or so instead of the ‘before sun, rise and shine’ time I always dream about – Habit: late rising

Habit of the extra-ordinary: Early Riser

 

I fall asleep with the TV on as I try to stay up after a decent bed time – Habit: late bedtime

Habit of the extra-ordinary: early to bed

 

I eat junk food daily – Habit: junk food

Habit of the extra-ordinary: healthy eating most of the time

 

I like chaos ; organized chaos so I don’t file papers and throw away old things very often – Habit: disorganization

Habit of the extra-ordinary: organized

 

I socialize before getting work done – Habit: procrastination

Habit of the extra-ordinary:  work first, socialize later

 

I tag things instead of dealing with them right away – Habit: procrastination

Habit of the extra-ordinary: handle it once, do it the first time

 

I click around the internet, reading lots and doing little – Habit: procrastination

Habit of the extra-ordinary: surfing the net is scheduled or delegated

 

I don’t see friends and family very often – Habit: loner

Habit of the extra-ordinary: healthy and deep relationships

I dodge people when something is due – Habit: irresponsibility

Habit of the extra-ordinary: accountable and responsible

 

I get upset with people who hold me accountable – Habit: immaturity

Habit of the extra-ordinary: Emotionally and spiritually mature

 

I usually get where I’m going late – Habit: Lateness

Habit of the extra-ordinary: early arrival  when needed

 

I tend to forget people’s needs but I don’t mean to — Habits: thoughtlessness AND no accountability!

Habit of the extra-ordinary: Kindness

 

I worry a lot – Habit: worry and impatience

Habit of the extra-ordinary: Faith and Patience

So… tell me now, how tired are you of being ordinary?

Sometimes we just need to observe and listen to what we do.

Abundant Success,

Julette Millien

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Creating a habit of Right Action – Day 4

Hi Everyone – was busy, so busy all day with some RIGHT ACTIONS!! 🙂

I usually start the day with writing or other work, and squeeze the gym or workout in during the day sometime BUT I SO prefer early morning work-outs that whenever possible I do it that way.

Today I did and it was fantastic. I wish I could commit to that daily. But it’s just not possible with my schedule.

I don’t know if I reported back – I remember telling you all that my symbolic action in the last series was drinking a glass of water each morning before I touch the floor. Well, that is such an ingrained habit now, I reach for it automatically without even thinking! Creating new success habits can be such fun! 🙂

The symbolism is huge for me…I imagine the water   flowing all over my body, a fluid that nourishes and gives strength – spiritual strength to every cell. It represents my simple obedience to a higher call to do what’s right, no matter what I feel in the moment. Humility is potency.

So…I hope your day went and is going well. Doing all Right Actions as you committed.  Creating your powerful new habits with daily right action.

I highly suggest you enjoy some beautiful art today. I believe it’s through reflecting on art and beauty that man locates those untapped resources within. The ones we all have. The inclination to do this thing or another, the courage and confidence to try at our highest and best output.

Have a magnificent day, evening or morning!

Love & Light,
Julette Millien
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21 Days of NO COMPLAINING!

Inspired by Dr Therman Evans this 21 day challenge will transform you!

A commitment to compliments expands our universe. We are so comfortable being negative or at least, ‘not positive’ that we hardly notice the self-sabotaging thoughts and discouraging comments that flow out of our mouths on a regular basis.

This 21 day challenge will bring tremendous awareness. Just by attempting to be more positive, you will notice the negative tendencies and have more power over your own thoughts and emotions.

I’ve been doing this for the entire month of July and it has been TRANSFORMATIONAL! Negativity is surely not all gone but I am aware and so much more empowered now.

The joy it brings to be kind and thoughtful and loving in a deliberate and intentional way, is just magnificent.

Here’s what we were asked to do at Morning Star Community Christian Center by our Pastor, Dr. Evans. He asked that we:

1.   Refrain from negative comments: speak positive and think positively  about our self, family, friends, neighbors and others.
2.   Complain about nothing: be complimentary about everything and everybody.
3.   Look for what is good in everything.
4.  Ask God for a transformation (Romans 12:1-2).

[Take me to the next level of promise, take my relationship to the next level of promise, take my church to the next level of promise]

I’d like to use these directions as a guide. They worked well.

With sustained and focused effort for 21 days straight we are able to create a new habit…the research does show this; experience as well.

We’ve done several of these 21 day – create a new habit events on Facebook and the results have been amazing.

This time, the goal is not simply to create a success habit in 21 days.

The goal is to remain aware and maintain the intention to harbor no negative thoughts, seek and give compliments for 21 days straight.

If this takes longer for some or even many people, that’s OK.  We’re after 100% effort, not perfect results.  It’s in the mis-takes that many insights and revelations will be buried.

So bring on the slips and falls, that’s how we will learn and grow over the 21 days we spend together. 🙂

You can do this from any place in the world and at any point of your life.

Join us – I promise you, you will be transformed! 🙂

Join the Facebook event “21 Days of  NO COMPLAINING”  here ►http://www.new.facebook.com/event.php?eid=113145558924&__a=1

I’ll be blogging and sending simple exercises to you…please share your insights, participants will be enriched by your experience.

Wishing an abundance of love and light,

Julette

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How to Create Success Habits – 7 Steps Strategy

As I guide people through my 21 days habit-creating programs, this is the 7 steps we use.   Commit to them, be accountable and you will have the most powerful results you can imagine!

Enjoy……….

The Seven Step How-to Create Successful Habits Strategy:

1. Be committed and passionate about creating the habit you selected. It has to MEAN a lot to you.  You have to be clear about the compelling reasons to create this new habit!

2. Have a plan – Think ahead of what you will need – resources, people, time, etc- to make this happen, write out a plan of how you will approach each day.  If you have a regular routine surrounding a habit you’re changing, create and commit to a substitute routine.

What is your strategy for dealing with “friendly” sabotage (those ‘friends’ who don’t quite get what you’re doing and why) and challenging situations – which will appear in the form of moods, needs, emotions, “bad” days  and frustrations…What’s your plan of action for handling these situations?

If you have spiritual rituals or activities, it’s vital to make them part of your plan.

3. Be organized – journal daily and follow this 7 step strategy.  Also and very significantly, block time in your day to consciously take action on your new habit.

4. Get Light! – Clear the Way – A magic moment for me this morning: I was at my kitchen window and saw a bird in my driveway, perched on top of a tarpaulin that was dropped on the ground but wasn’t flat on the ground (the blue ones, very light material.)   I was thinking how amazing it was for this bird to be landing and staying on the top of a pocket of air practically. Then it walked around!…the image of it prancing around, not weighted down by any baggage, concerns or grudges actually made me laugh out loud.

The application to this step #4 was obvious.

How light are you for this habit creating journey?

What troubles from yesterday are you taking into tomorrow while robbing you of today?

Consider what excess baggage you can leave – you can even decide to pick it back up later (let’s see if that’s going to appeal to you after NOT being weighted down by it for 21 days!)

And here’s the magic of that moment for me.  I was thinking, if that bird had some piece of leaf or crumb on his wings, weighing him down, it would no doubt shake it off before flying off. And as if on cue, the bird did a shake, then another and flew off light as a feather. The bird was working along with me!

So, what can you shake off today?  Habit breaking and forming can be a challenge, are you light enough for the journey?

5. Speak Success to yourself daily.  This is part of having a plan too. Watch how you speak to yourself about what you’re attempting to do.  This is VERY powerful.  Whether you’re speaking positively or negatively, the power of words, thoughts and self-talk remains the same.  You know, “as a man thinketh, so he is”

Also, speak with or email your accountability partner regularly to motivate them and help them to remain on task. [Having an accountability partner is essential when you’re attempting to create something new.]

6. Get your heart right. Think of the best reason possible for achieving this goal of creating a powerful new success habit.  With this new habit, other than yourself, who will benefit?  Family? Employees? Clients and customers? The masses waiting for your product or service?

How can you pay this forward?  Who can you help with creating a new habit?

7. Apply what you already know, get more information only where needed.  If you permit yourself, you’ll recognize how much knowledge you already have about this process, “successful habit creating” strategies.  I call this APK – acknowledge your present knowledge, build on what on you know and stop wasting time re-learning old information ( a sophisticated form of procrastination.)  Do research only where needed.

Reading up on the research done by Maxwell Maltz – father of this material on    creating habits in 21 days, is a good idea if you’ve never heard of him or read his work.  Also, finding relevant information regarding your particular habit is useful as well.  ( Please note: doing this “research” should not replace taking daily action with your emerging success habit!)

Follow these guidelines and I promise you, you will be successful!  Every successful undertaking requires a systematic strategy and, commitment to the action steps required.

Wishing you an Abundance of Success,

Julette Millien

Success and Habits: Quotes

Habit Quotes

These are some powerful quotes about creating new habits, the importance of good habits and how to achieve success.

A suggestion: Select one or two per week and write them on cards, placing where you can see them often.  Aspire to LIVE the meaning in your day to day life.  Commit them to memory – which would mean saying them often.

Have fun!

There can be NO success without the habit of forgiveness

~ Julette Millien ~

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.

~ Aristotle ~

A habit cannot be tossed out the window; it must be coaxed down the stairs a step at a time.

Mark Twain ~

The victory of success is half won when one gains the habit of setting goals and achieving them. Even the most tedious chore will become endurable as you parade through each day convinced that every task, no matter how menial or boring, brings you closer to fulfilling your dreams.

Og Mandino ~

Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event.

Brian Tracy ~

The beginning of pride and hatred lies in worldly desire, and the strength of your desire if from habit. When an evil tendency becomes confirmed by habit, rage is triggered when anyone restrains you.

~ Mevlana Rumi ~

Your mind will be like its habitual thoughts; for the soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts. Soak it then in such trains of thoughts as, for example: Where life is possible at all, a right life is possible.

~ Marcus Aurelius ~

The successful person makes a habit of doing what the failing person doesn’t like to do.

~ Thomas Edison ~

Repetition of the same thought or physical action develops into a habit which, repeated frequently enough, becomes an automatic reflex.

Norman Vincent Peale ~

Winners have simply formed the habit of doing things losers don’t like to do

Albert Gray ~

Quality is not an act, it is a habit.

Aristotle ~

Ninety-nine percent of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.

~ George Washington Carver ~

The individual who wants to reach the top in business must appreciate the might and force of habit. He must be quick to break those habits that can break him–and hasten to adopt those practices that will become the habits that help him achieve the success he desires.

~ J. Paul Getty ~

Success is a matter of understanding and religiously practicing specific, simple habits that always lead to success.

~ Robert J. Ringer ~

Genius means little more than the faculty of perceiving in an unhabitual way.

~ William James ~

The soul, like the body, accepts by practice whatever habit one wishes it to contact.

Socrates ~

Thinking is a habit, and like any other habit, it can be changed; it just takes effort and repetition.

~ John Eliot, Ph.D. ~

Stop the habit of wishful thinking and start the habit of thoughtful wishes.

Mary Martin ~

It is the habitual thought that frames itself into our life. It affects us even more than our intimate social relations do. Our confidential friends have not so much to do in shaping our lives as the thoughts have which we harbor.

~ J. W. Teal ~

Success is a habit which can be acquired by the exercise of a moderate amount of intelligence, a great deal of hard work, and an unswerving sincerity of purpose.

~- Major General Herbert Leonard Grills ~

Whatever you habitually think yourself to be, that you are. You must form, now, a greater and better habit; you must form a conception of yourself as a being of limitless power, and habitually think that you are that being. It is the habitual, not the periodical thought that decides your destiny.

~ Wallace D. Wattles ~

People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures.

~ FM Alexander ~

Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.

Aristotle ~

Once you learn to quit, it becomes a habit.

Vince Lombardi ~

There is no more miserable human being than one in whom nothing is habitual but indecision.

~ William James ~

The successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t like to do… They don’t like doing them either necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose.

~ E. M. Gray ~

I will form good habits and become their slaves.

~ Og Mandino ~

Feeling sorry for yourself, and you present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.

Dale Carnegie ~

Until you have learned to be tolerant with those who do not always agree with you; until you have cultivated the habit of saying some kind word of those whom you do not admire; until you have formed the habit of looking for the good instead of the bad there is in others, you will be neither successful nor happy.

~ Napoleon Hill ~

Habit is a cable; we weave a thread of it each day, and at last we cannot break it.

~ Horace Mann ~

Each year one vicious habit discarded, in time might make the worst of us good.

~ Benjamin Franklin ~

Procrastination is the bad habit of putting off until the day after tomorrow what should have been done the day before yesterday.

~ Napoleon Hill ~

How You Practice You Play

Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out… Robert Collier

One worthwhile task carried to a successful conclusion is worth half-a-hundred half-finished tasks. Malcom S. Forbes

Successful men and women become successful because they acquire the habit of thinking in terms of success. Get the success habit in the small circumstances you control, and soon you’ll be controlling the bigger ones. Napoleon Hill

Napoleon Hill dubbed the term Success Habit in his 1937 book, Think and Grow Rich.

Hill wrote of being inspired by industrialist Andrew Carnegie, who believed anyone could achieve success by “a simple formula” of duplicating effective behaviors.

There are several key words in this sentence and you can decide which one resonates most deeply with you.  “Duplicating” is my word.

What that means to me is this:  what I do everyday I will create or what I practice I become.

Whether I’m trying to or not, I’m creating habits daily.  They may be ‘success habits’ or bad habits but they’re habits.

Consistency is the key no matter what kind of habit you’re creating…you may not be intentionally building a bad or ineffective habit BUT by repeating the same behavior daily,  it is what you’re doing.

WHAT EVER you practice for 21 days straight will be your new habit.

If you are not consistent, stopping and starting certain actions then you’re building a habit of inconsistency with that behavior.  

The key is to practice the habit the way you want it to manifest.

So, will you commit to a successful habit-creating strategy based on consistency?  Or, will you create a habit of inconsistency, stop and start, taking action when you feel like it?

I know you want the former.  Do you want it badly enough to be consistent, through tough times, unexpected events and even on the weekend?

Spend a few minutes reflecting on what it is that you really want to create.
If you have a habit of inconsistency, can you think of why that is?

Usually behaviors that interrupt the creation of bold new habits serve a purpose.

There is something these behaviors provide…comfort, security, avoidance, acceptance…what’s behind your inconsistency?

Knowledge is power.  Or, can be power if you do something with it!

Reflect on the ‘whys’ behind your behaviors, the iceberg beneath the tip…then TAKE ACTION, armed with a genuine understanding of your needs and HOW to achieve your dreams.

Know this, what you practice you create.  The way the game is played is a direct reflection of how the team practiced.

Consistency of practice, action and behaviors for 21 days straight is how habits are formed.

So what are you doing the next 21 days?

Wishing you abundant success,

Julette
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’21 Days’ Events for 2009

21 Days events are designed to support you as you create a brand new powerful success habit.

During 2009 we will be taking on  the following topics/habits.  Our programs are ’21 days’ because research has shown that it takes 21 days to create a new habit.

Invitations will be sent out on Facebook and together hundreds, sometimes thousands will ‘get together’ and support each other as we create a brand new habit. Activities, exercises,  accountability, videos and blogs are some of the tools we use.

Our 21 Days of Kindness event had over 1800 participants last November and we just ended 21 Days of Accountability with about 500 participants.   The feedback has been phenomenal.

These events are fun, they’re free and they’re very powerful.

These habits are essential for lasting success.

I invite you to review this list and if you have a suggestion, feel free to share it.  Please leave a comment about your preferences and priorities.

I’ll be happy to use your feedback.

1.  JOY by being GRATEFUL – 21 days of gratitude.

2. Service – Personal Social Responsibility – February (in the works with an expert in the area)

3.  Organization – organize one drawer, one bag, one room, one office or section of a business, just organize one project per day for 21 days.

4.  Abundant Thinking – following the guidelines, speak, share and think positive thoughts for a specified time period each day for 21 days.  Guidelines will be provided about what to take in if you wish to produce abundant thinking.

5.  Pause by being STILL 5 minutes per day – Meditation/stillness/alone time

6.   Kindness – 21 days of kindness was such a worldwide success, we MUST do it again.

7.   Forgiveness – each day forgive (and record) someone or something, whether it’s new or old.  Daily self-forgiveness ritual.

8.    Communication– each day communicate -meaningfully – to someone on your list of people you’d like to get closer to

9.    Laughter – sharing funnies, making time to laugh DAILY

10. Prayer – only a commitment to daily prayer required

11.  Healthy Eating and Workout – for people committed to 21 days straight of  healthy living.

12.   Accountability – DONE – January

As part of our program, an accountability partner is always recommended.  It makes all the difference in the world.

Let me know what you think about these topics, which should be first and any I haven’t thought of.

Wishing you Abundant Success!

Julette

♥♥♥ – In Light and with Love, as usual 🙂

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