Self-Discipline – reflecting and learning

The following message was sent to the participants of the  75 Days of Action Challenge on Facebook.

For all previous messages for this 21-day series on self-discipline,  see recent posts on this page.  It is important to honor this system and do your daily activities along with the suggested activities IF creating a powerful new success habit in 21 days is your goal.  Have fun!

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Hi there!

I hope all is well and wonderful in your part of the world. And if it’s not, my wish is that you are able to bring something good to the situation.

These 2 days are reserved for reflecting, reviewing and processing the lessons learned over the past 23 days – 21 days of action plus the 2 we spent on planning.

I’d like you to:

1)  Review your answers to the questions asked on Day 1 – Nov. 10th – and see if you would answer them any differently today.

2)  Review what you have written in your journal and then just sit quietly to hear the guidance that comes from that deep inner voice.

3)  Reflect on how the days flowed when you were in action and how they flowed when you were not.

4)  Don’t move ahead just yet, planning the next phase – that time will come. For now, get the insights and learn the lessons you will be applying moving forward.

5)  Write as much as you’d like about these insights, lessons and accomplishments.

6)  Share with us all at the event wall.  I’ve been told again and again by participants of these programs that so much is learned from hearing about other people’s experiences, suggestions and challenges.

7)  Have fun…continue the celebration. You deserve it!

Have a magnificent day…with as much joy, wisdom, love and kindness as you can muster!! 🙂

Julette Millien

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P.S. All messages for the past 23 days are here ► http://bit.ly/3QyXKX

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Organize Your Life in 21 Days – Welcome!

Welcome and thanks for stopping in!

21 Days of Action with Organization is about taking daily action, organizing and clearing out some part of your life.  It can be physical, spiritual, mental or emotional space!

This is something we all need – clearance, order, organization – but often things get out of control and a small pile becomes a massive load; a minor concern becomes huge anxiety; a grand idea lays dormant, a great relationship suffers, etc…

When things in the physical world get out of control and get bigger in size, they tend to weigh us down: psychologically, emotionally and spiritually. It takes up more space in our minds and hearts.

So organization in one’s physical space is very much connected to lightness and clarity in one’s thoughts and feelings.

And sometimes our physical space is neurotically ‘perfect’ to compensate for our inner turmoil.

You’ve got to be STILL and listen to that inner voice for guidance…Which part of your life is in MOST need of some organization?

Tackle that area first IF you’d like to reap the maximum benefit from this 21 day event.

For 21 Days straight I invite you to take ACTION with ORGANIZATION.

Why 21 days? Because that’s how long it takes to create a new habit!

My goal is help you to create a new, powerful success habit.

ORDER is essential if living peacefully and joyfully is your goal. Prosperity and success cannot exist amongst chaos. Organization is an essential habit/skill. The lack of it can be felt in every area of your life.

If you agree to participate in this event [these events have been known to be transformational, so DO NOT enter casually! :-)] you will be asked to agree to the following:

1) Have a personal brainstorm session where you come up with a list of organization projects around your home, office, car, etc. as well as personal areas for organization improvement ( like getting thoughts and ideas recorded – free up space in the brain; getting clarity on some anxiety or fear you have about dealing with something old or new; planning/acting on ideas; connecting spiritual knowledge to everyday events.)

2) Commit to accomplishing one small project per day (or significant piece of a larger project)
– This could be as simple as clearing out one drawer, or file, or handbag or as major as giving away ALL excess clothes and things from your home and office, in which case you would do a little each day. Or perhaps, in 21 days you can get a business idea from head to paper to implementation.

3) Share here as much as you can – the more we share with each other the richer the experience

4) TAKE AN ACTION STEP each day.

5) Get an accountability partner – someone to share with and be accountable to throughout the 21 days. A plan to check in and report on action steps taken would have to be created and honored.

So for 21 days I will guide you through exercises and suggested activities to create this powerful new success habit. (Research shows that it takes 21 days to create a new habit – see group link below for more info and links to research)

Please join us ONLY if you are willing, coachable and ready to take a MAJOR next step in your life by creating a powerful new success habit.

The 21 days will be focused in the following way:

  • Days 1-4             Personal Organization – organizing personal spaces , ideas and emotions
  • Days 5-8            Organizing the home
  • Days 9-12          Organizing correspondence and papers, personal books and learning
  • Days 13-16        Organizing work spaces, offices, files and general books
  • Days 17-20       Organizing community projects, volunteer files, vehicles and projects at houses of worship.
  • Days 21              Wrap-up.

In order to have the life of your dreams, you’ll have to create order in ALL the venues of your life. Joy, peace, prosperity cannot exist in chaos.

In order to have the BUSINESS of your dreams, you, your partners and your team will have to exist in ordered space and implement efficient systems in order create and produce your highest and best products and services.

JOIN us! This will be a life changing event!!

I welcome you to join the 2 groups  on Facebook that I administer and are dedicated to supporting this event.

How Do I Forgive and Heal the World? http://www.new.facebook.com/group.php?gid=16986686743

Success Habits in 21 Days http://www.new.facebook.com/group.php?gid=16986686743#/group.php?gid=29671746109

We begin on Wednesday May 6 – See you there!

Wishing you Abundant Success,

Julette

♥~

Is Your Life in Balance?

In order to live a balanced life you’ve got to think about your habits in each of The Five Vital Venues of Life.

You don’t want to be a raving success in business but have a horrible family life,  a great community leader but terrible relationships with friends and family, awesome home life with a failing business.  Imagine how long these “great” areas of your life will remain gratifying if  there’s no balance.  Not very long.

You don’t want to have an imbalanced life.  An imbalanced life leads to stress, illness, reduced income, broken relationships and general unhappiness.

When our life is in balance we find our joy, we create lasting peace and prosperity on a daily basis.

How do you determine whether you’re in balance or not?  And once you determine that you’re out of balance, how do you proceed?

If you just live and hope it all falls into place, has that worked for you? I bet not.

A deliberate approach is needed.  Below is the system I’ve used successfully for decades.

The Five Vital Venues are:

  • Self – (where most of the self help industry spends its time!) this is anything to do with self-improvement, personal habits, health & wellness, personal spending, etc…
  • Relationships – the dynamics of relationships, communication, and all that goes into having loving, open and thriving relationships with friends, family colleagues, partners, mentors, etc.,  falls into this venue
  • Home – this venue is all about where you call home and all that happens there. Your family life, the spirit of your home, the look and feel of your home, the peace of your home. This venue is so important! If your home life is not right, meaning it doesn’t nourish and sustain you, it would be impossible to maintain a successful life on the outside. People do it, but that’s not success.
  • Work/Business – This venue is about the workplace and all that goes on there. Your advancement or ability to grow your business. For many people this venue is most of their life and all other venues are ignored. Most imbalances come from this venue getting too much of your available time and energy. But also, many of what goes on in this venue is like a rat in a maze (hence term rat race.) People are very busy but because of bad or ineffective habits, their work is not as fruitful as it could be or as they need it to be. Powerful success habits are needed to work smarter.
  • Community/Church – For life to be truly balanced it has to have a ‘reach out’ component.  It can’t be all about you, your family and the business.  Giving something back to the community is crucial.  Service is actually one of the essential habits of prosperity. Fellowshipping with fellow church members, with neighbors and the business community is a vital part of success. And not just for the socializing piece either. We have to be part of or lead programs that help other people who are not as fortunate as we are. We all live in a community and we have a responsibility to be a player, active in some aspect of that community’s well being. Being on the sidelines is not an option.

Review these 5 Vital Venues and decide which venue you will concentrate on.

A quick assessment will help.

On a scale of 1-10 where would you rate your success in each venue?  (Success meaning your active involvement, healthy relationships and projects and general state of contentment within each venue.)

The one with the lowest rating would be a good place to start.

To move forward with clarity and personal power, be sure to FORGIVE yourself for any lack of balance that exists.

New and powerful success habits will have to be created if you’d like to remain in balance in these 5 Vital Venues.

Some Suggestions for Taking Action Today:

  1. Do a quick assessment to see where some work is needed
  2. Forgive and release all regret and anxiety about the lack of balance
  3. Assess what the patterns of your life are that made it possible to be out of balance
  4. Commit to a plan to create the desired balance – which new habits are needed?  what are your action goals in the venue of choice? how will you measure your success in creating the new habits and taking the necessary actions? how will you be accountable? and to whom?
  5. TAKE THE FIRST STEP NOW!!

Have fun with this exercise and be sure to celebrate along the way.

Balance in life is necessary, it’s attainable and it’s all up to YOU!

Wishing you ABUNDANT success,

Julette

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Wise Quotes on Accountability

Below are some quotes on accountability.  I enjoyed them and thought you would too.   They gave rise to some sweet reflection on what being truly accountable is all about.

Enjoy them, place a few where you can see them and be inspired to live the meaning.

“It is easier to fight for one’s principles than to live up to them.”  Alfred Adler

“Never promise more than you can perform.“-  Publilius Syrus

“Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.”  William Feather

“Thinking well is wise; planning well, wiser; doing well wisest and best of all.Persian Proverb

“A duty dodged is like a debt unpaid; it is only deferred, and we must come back and settle the account at last.”  Joseph Fort Newton

“It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.”  Sir Josiah Stamp

“God does not want us to do extraordinary things; He wants us to do ordinary things extraordinarily well.”  Bishop Gore

“It is not only what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.“-  Moliere

“Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes real happiness. It is not obtained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.”  Helen Keller

“Every person’s work, whether it be literature or music or pictures or architecture or anything else, is always a portrait of that person.Samuel Butler

“I am not bound to win
but I am bound to be true;
I am not bound to succeed
but am bound to live up
to what light I have.
Abraham Lincoln

“It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.”  Sir Josiah Stamp

“Accountability breeds response-ability.” Stephen R. Covey

“Hell begins on the day when God grants us a clear vision of all that we might have achieved, of all the gifts which we have wasted, of all that we might have done which we did not do.

“No snowflake in an avalanche ever feels responsible.” George Burns


“I am responsible. Although I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening, I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.”
Walter Anderson


Accountability and Forgiveness

In order to achieve lasting peace and prosperity; in order to be successful at your job or business- you must be accountable. Without accountability success is impossible.

21 Days of Accountability to Create a Habit of Success

If you have a goal in mind and it requires daily action,  accountability is your best and most powerful guide.

For any society to function and for any person to perform at their highest and best accountability is key.

Think of all the ways you are accountable each day – you speed or break a law, you will have a consequence if caught, and even if not caught, there is the consequence of  possible guilt; you leave late for an appointment, you will be late; you behave a certain way, you get a particular response – most of the time!  We couldn’t exist without accountability.

Also, in creating new habits, we’re going ‘against the grain.’  As humans we don’t gravitate easily towards change.

Accountability – basically being responsible for your actions (or no actions) – makes daily commitments more likely to be acted upon.  Support groups are effective to the extent that accountability is part of the expectations.

I know from personal experience of having  a coach/accountability partner, I get more done, more consistently when I have to report in to someone at a specific time, on a regular basis!   From professional experience as an executive coach, without a doubt accountability works every time.

In this 21 Days of Accountability ‘event’  we will make use of two accountability methods: partnering (being accountable to someone else) and journaling (being accountable to yourself.)

To be an effective source of motivation, an accountability partner must adhere to certain  guidelines.

Basic Guidelines of Accountability:

  • An attitude of Service:  to be a great accountability partner, you have to want to do it;  a desire to be of service is a key ingredient.   Wanting the very best for your partner is essential.  Wanting to do everything you can to help them stay on task is equally important.  Your partner will respond at a higher level if they’re motivated by your genuine interest and desire to see them succeed.
  • NON-JUDGMENT: No matter what goes on with daily action items, it is not our role as an accountability partner to make any judgments about why something wasn’t done, or about our partner.  Think of being judged – TOTALLY demotivating!
  • Consistency: Stick to the agreements of the partnership.  If you agree that you will be in touch with your accountability partner to give an update – do so.  And if you don’t  hear from your partner, reach out to them.  Create an agreement about what the ‘consequence’ will be if action is not taken as committed.  And what ever is agreed to should be invoked.  Hold your partner accountable!  This is the whole point.

Some additional and necessary characteristics of an excellent accountability partner for this program:

  • Integrity (confidentiality is crucial)
  • Curiosity and interest in meeting new people
  • Commitment to self-improvement (your own and others’ too)
  • Excellent ‘listening’ skills

I strongly recommend that you adhere to these guidelines and come to an agreement with your accountability partner about:

  • Frequency of contact – each person is responsible for checking in with their partner
  • Clarity on daily actions committed to
  • Consequences for IF action is not taken
  • Reward for when you’ve successfully created your new powerful success habit! (and for along the way as well)

About Accountability to YOURSELF:

On a daily basis – for 21 days straight, I highly recommend that you write in an accountability journal about your day.  Write what was accomplished, what wasn’t and why.

This can be very brief – the point is to MAKE yourself write it out so you can hold yourself accountable.  You will become less guilty as well.

You’ll also have an opportunity to give positive self-feedback on a regular basis; this helps with maintaining the high level of motivation needed to be successful.

As you  build the powerful habit of accountability, you have to have a laser like focus on taking deliberate daily action towards this end.  Being single minded about writing, checking in and taking action on your goal is imperative.

If you are NOT coachable in this regard, you will not have much success with creating this new habit.

Have fun with this process, if you slip up, dust off and jump back in.  It’s the only way! 🙂

Wishing you abundant success,

Julette

♥♥♥

Creating New Success Habits is about ACCOUNTABILITY!

Powerful Success Habits in 21 Days – PSH 21

Day #2

Accountability is an essential principle.

For any society to function and for any person to perform at their highest and best accountability is key.

Think of all the ways you are accountable each day – you speed or break a law, you will have a consequence if caught; you leave late for an appointment, you will be late; you behave a certain way, you get a particular response – most of the time!  We couldn’t exist without accountability.

In creating new habits, we’re going ‘against the grain.’  As humans we don’t gravitate easily towards change.   Accountability – basically being responsible for your actions (or no actions) makes daily commitments more reliable.  Support groups are effective to the extent that accountability is part of the expectations.

In this Success Habits in 21 Days Program accountability is being used for a specific purpose:  motivation.  I know from personal experience of having  a coach/accountability partner, I get more done, more consistently when I have to report in to someone at a specific time!   From professional experience as an executive coach, without a doubt accountability works every time.

To be an effective source of motivation, there’re certain guidelines that must be followed.

Basic Guidelines of Accountability:

  • An attitude of Service:  to be a great accountability partner, you have to want to do it;  a desire to be of service is a key ingredient.   Wanting the very best for your partner is essential.  Wanting to do everything you can to help them stay on task is equally important.  Your partner will respond at a higher level if they’re motivated by your genuine interest and desire to see them succeed.
  • NON-JUDGMENT:  No matter what goes on with daily action items, it is not our role as an accountability partner to make any judgments about why something wasn’t done, or about our partner.  Think of being judged – TOTALLY demotivating!
  • Consistency:  Stick to the agreements of the partnership.  If you agree that you will be in touch with your accountability partner to give an update – do so.  And if you don’t  hear from your partner, reach out to them.  Create an agreement about what the ‘consequence’ will be if action is not taken as committed.  And what ever is agreed to should be invoked.  Hold your partner accountable!  This is the whole point.

Some additional and necessary characteristics of an excellent accountability partner for this program:

  • Integrity (confidentiality is crucial)
  • Curiosity and interest in meeting new people
  • Commitment to self-improvement
  • Excellent ‘listening’ skills

I strongly recommend that you adhere to these guidelines and come to an agreement with your accountability partner about:

  • Frequency of contact – each person is responsible for checking in with their partner
  • Clarity on daily actions committed to
  • Consequences for IF action is not taken
  • Reward for when you’ve successfully created your new powerful success habit!

Have fun with this!

Wishing you Abundant Success,

Julette

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