Days 4 – 21 of Taking Action with Forgiveness


To follow the 21 days series  — 21 Days of Taking Action with Forgiveness — please go to the blog at

Messages from days 1 – 21 are archived there for your convenience.


Remember, if you’re feeling a bit stuck or under productive you’re probably in need of releasing some burden you carry without even thinking about it!

Forgive it, fix it…then FLOURISH!

With Love and Light,


♥ ♥ ♥

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Day 3 Assignment for 21 Days of Action with Forgiveness

Hello there!

For DAY #3 please do the following:

1. Review list of things to forgive yourself for and RELEASE another item – Decide to STOP the guilt TODAY

2. Write that item on paper and DESTROY – symbolically and actually!!

3. Next to each and all the items listed, write a date when you think you’ll be ready to release the guilt

4. Create a MASTER list of all your positive qualities with an example where possible [for example: friendly – I smile at strangers; thrifty – I compare prices; organized – I clear my work space often, etc] Dedicate 10 minutes and don’t stop writing until the time is up

5. Do forgiveness ritual – sent yesterday and is also posted at ►►► my blog

The first 3 days of our program were dedicated to forgiving yourself – if you can’t forgive you forgiving others will be empty.

The next 3 will be spent on the HOME venue. Specifically, begin thinking about people you need to forgive in and around your domestic situation; for example, immediate family members, visitors and neighbors.

Tomorrow we will begin to focus on the baggage you carry in this vital venue.

Take a nice deep breath…often! 🙂

You’re doing something few people take on – it takes courage and strength to forgive and here you are creating a habit and a mindset of forgiveness!! I have nothing but warm and fuzzy feelings for each of you. *misty eyed* [yes, I’m really mushy, at times :-)]

In Light and with Love,
♥  ♥  ♥

P.S. for earlier messages – those catching up please see ‘recent entries’ at ►
And my video message here – from day 1
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How to Forgive Yourself – Day #2 of 21 Days of Action with Forgiveness

Forgiving yourself is necessary!

Easier said than done right?

I know, words are so easy to say and truths to spout.  But how do you really forgive yourself, if you don’t already have a habit of forgiveness?

An assumption is being made here and here it is: I am assuming that you believe that forgiveness is right and good; that it is the way to live that brings peace and joy.  This is my assumption as I suggest the following.

Loving yourself; forgiving yourself is possible when you have a desire to or, you already love yourself. So are you “feeling” worthy of love – yours or someone else’s? Are you loving you?

If not, stay here for a minute and create a miracle. Change your mindset about that.  Just do it.

  • Decide that loving yourself is all that really makes sense.
  • Decide that you are worthy of love because you exist. Period.

It might be different for you but for me,

  • I think of God and the power of love.
  • I think of the life of Jesus and how much He endured because of his love for me.
  • I think of the healing and miraculous power of love, which is God and I wonder how can I be anything but lovable when I was created by, with and for love!

ONCE you are clear about being a magnificent creation of love, forgiving yourself becomes a natural outcome.

Not forgiving you for mistakes causes pain, guilt, stress, anxiety – why would you do that to someone you love?

Mistakes are common; they occur everyday, big ones and little ones.  They are a fact of life.  And NO ONE goes  through life without making them.

Mistakes HOW we learn and how we GROW.

Thinking you are perfect and so mistakes are not forgivable is egotistical.

So get over yourself and accept your humanity – which by definition means you WILL be making mistakes!  Then, move on from there and accept how lovable you are.

What’s the obvious next step?

Yes, FORGIVE yourself for all you have done or not done to this point SO THAT you can move on to live a life of love and wellness.

Without this forgiveness of self, you will not have the life of your dreams.

Day 2 Assignment:

1. Review your list of things (in your forgiveness journal) to forgive and select something you will see and feel differently about TODAY.

2. Write about that choice and why you are releasing the guilt.

3. Write out what you are forgiving yourself for on a piece of paper and ceremoniously destroy that piece of paper

4. Do Forgiveness Ritual – sent earlier

5. Check in with accountability partner and discuss forgiveness process, actions taken and your intentions

If anxiety sneaks in, just say ‘hey’ and stay on your program.  Really!

Anxiety is adrenalin and a rush of adrenalin means you are living life to the fullest, or trying to!

Stick with what you know is right and try not to rely solely on your ‘feelings.’

In Light and with Love,

♥ ♥ ♥

21 Days of ACTION with Forgiveness – Day 1

Hello there!

for signing up for 21 Days of Action with Forgiveness!

Really, the battle is half won.   That’s because your intention is clear; you wish to forgive ALL, release ALL and become lighter, more open and more free.

That is a very good thing.

I am SO so so so EXCITED for you – and for me too because the more I do this (guide others through the forgiveness process) the easier it becomes to release ANYTHING negative that pops into my life.

OK.  Here is how I suggest you to start off; PREPARED!

As you know before starting any trip or taking on any important project, you MUST be prepared to excel. You won’t do or be at your highest and best by accident. It has to be intentional.

So please prepare yourself for this forgiveness journey in the following way: DAY 1 activities

1. Dedicate a journal or notebook to this forgiveness event- write as often as possible about the experience

2. Write the following in it: your forgiveness intention –what are you hoping to accomplish? Also, make a list of everything you feel guilty about – this is what you will be releasing over the next 3 days

3. Write the benefits: What will you gain from releasing all this guilt?

4. Read (if you haven’t) the articles sited at the Event Page – provided below

A blog entry here on Forgiving Yourself will get you started in this vital venue:
►►► Forgive Yourself  FIRST

Also, this one  ►►► on Consistency – How We Practice We Play

5. Spend some time in silence or prayer or meditation in a quiet spot or nature walk, letting love guide your state.

Again, congratulations on taking this life-changing, mindset shifting step into complete forgiveness.

As I mentioned on the event wall, having an accountability partner will dramatically increase your benefits from this experience. I URGE you to share your goals with a trusted friend and permit them to hold you to your daily intentions.

Accountability is a basic requirement of any undertaking IF excellence is your goal!

It was decided to conceal the guest list for this event to protect the privacy of each participant. But if you’d like to have an accountability partner from within the group please leave a message on the discussion wall and others will respond if available.

I’ll be in touch regularly throughout the 21 days and will be available for any questions you might have. Share your questions and your insights, we will all be blessed by whatever you have to add to this experience.

I hope you are as excited as I am :-). This is exciting though I certainly understand if you’re a bit anxious…that’s perfectly normal. Just allow me to guide you, take it one step at a time and remember your benefits. The ‘why’ behind your actions will keep you motivated when/if it gets a bit uncomfortable.

Change is never comfortable but it is so necessary!

Keep the end in mind – lightness and peace and joy, etc…. 🙂

In light and with Love,

♥ ♥ ♥