Kindness…3 Points to Guide You

1000 people on Facebook (now 1150, a day later!!) are spreading kindness all over the world.

Just imagine!  Small acts of kindness bouncing from one to the other to the other…inspiring to no end!

This is day #4 of a 21 day kindness initiative- see post below.  21 days because that’s how long it takes to develop a new habit, according to Dr. Maxwell Maltz.

We’re creating a powerful new habit.  One that will transfer into every area of life.  Very exciting!

Here is a 3 point guide to focus your efforts:

1. Be specific. It’s about focused kindness.  Deciding to be kind is a wonderful decision.  Sounds great and for some people it might even be enough to bring about a breakthrough in thought and behavior.  But here’s the thing, MOST people need more structure, discipline and practice.   In creating a new habit, repetition is key.  Discipline is imperative.  New behaviors don’t get formed with random and unfocused behavior.

So, each day make a specific decision to do a kind thing, for someone in particular. Do this for 21 days straight and you will find yourself habitually kind at the end of this period.

Another advantage to the focused kindness approach is this – someone gets to benefit  each day and they will pass the kindness forward.  It just happens naturally, no need to ask them to!

With focused kindness that personal human connection is more likely to be made.

2. Pebble in the pond: You know what happens when you throw a pebble into a pond? It ripples outward from where the pebble lands. Imagine those circles moving outward.

This is how your kind acts should flow. Starting with those closest to you, be kind on a daily basis. This doesn’t mean you have to perform an act of kindness towards every member of your family and close friends, before moving onto colleagues and then strangers. Not at all.  What you have to be careful of is withholding kindness from those closest to you while you make the world happy. Not an authentic approach to kindness. Just keep the pebble in mind.  First circles first. (Kindness towards your self is assumed here – can’t give love and kindness to others if you withhold it from yourself!)

3. Stretch! If writing notes is something you do often and is very easy for you, that’s great. Do some of that for sure.

If smiling at strangers however is something you struggle with, make up your mind to do a good bit of that. The goal is to become more comfortable with a range of kindness actions. Some personal growth along the way is a wonderful by-product.

So stretch, grow, go beyond your comfort zone.

Together these 3 guidelines will bring variety, fun and authenticity to your kindness efforts.

Full commitment to this effort will be very rewarding.  More people will be touched.  Your tree of kindness will blossom and bear perpetual fruits of kindness.

Have fun with this process, take time to feel the joy of being kind.

Are there some guidelines you use that others would benefit form hearing about?  Please share them here.

And please tell us about your experiences and people’s reactions to your acts of kindness.   Stories are so motivating! 🙂

Have a joy filled, peaceful and loving day or evening…and thank you so much for being part of this effort to “BE the change we wish to see in the world.” (Gandhi)

Wishing you Love, Peace and Joy…all possible through kindness




One Response

  1. I applaud you so much for bringing so many people together on Facebook to bring more kindness in the world. You are truly a beautiful person! Much peace and happiness!

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