Gratitude & Kindness; Sure Path to Success

On this Thanksgiving morning of 2008,  I’m reflecting on my Mameta’s last days. I wrote a tribute to her here.  It’s also a plea for you to be in touch with the loved ones who pop into your spirit or heart today.  I followed such a “pop” and am forever grateful!

We completed a 21 Days of Kindness event last week and what a joy it was!

What a perfect prelude to Thanksgiving.  Gratitude is our path to kindness.  If we can remain grateful for every moment of life, we will have the lightness of spirit that makes acts of kindness possible.

So today as you gratefully count your blessings, notice how much more easy and natural it is to be kind.

A few quotes to ponder:

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.

John F Kennedy:

To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant, to enact gratitude is generous & noble, but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.

J A Gaertner

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.

Denis Waitley

Buddha says Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.

I wish you love, peace and joy today and always,



P.S. Can you think of a more perfect trio for a success habit? Gratitude, Kindness and Loving…

Kindness Pays – 14 Simple Acts

How much time do you spend in the workplace, on your business or at school?  I bet it’s significant!

So how about spreading some kindness in that environment?

You will increase the sense of well-being for everyone.   Research shows that by doing, receiving AND observing kindness, we create positive feelings and improve our health!  Kindness is healthy and contagious!

The kinder your environment, the better the interactions and healthier the connections.

Staff, clients and colleagues will give more of their time, their commitment and their creativity.

Kindness pays in business…even Donald Trump honors this principle.  See here.

Don’t let this be the motivation though – let profit  be a natural outcome of something genuine.

Manipulation is not kindness.

Here are some suggestions for acts of kindness in the workplace:

  1. Write letters of appreciation to staff, colleagues, managers, clients
  2. Deliver INSPIRED customer service…find ways to WOW them
  3. Organize your work space, offer to help a colleague
  4. Offer to assist a colleague with a project, esp if you enjoy the work and they don’t
  5. Stop and have a sincere conversation with the support staff if you are management and management if you are not
  6. Tell your manager or professor what they do really well
  7. Tell your staff how much you appreciate their efforts
  8. Take your best client(s) to lunch
  9. FORGIVE your colleagues or supervisors or clients or teachers for something that’s been bothering you for months or years. (this is kindness towards YOU too)
  10. Brighten work space with flowers, plants or pictures
  11. Pick up some rubbish/trash around your workplace (inside or outside)
  12. Compliment a work colleague for their excellence (one you don’t have the best relationship with)
  13. Recommend a competitor to a potential client
  14. Give another driver your parking spot in the company garage

It’s right to be kind, it improves your health and well-being AND it happens to make great business sense at the same time.  How perfect is that?

Remember, have FUN with this.  If it’s not coming from the heart, it’s not kindness 🙂



The List – Acts of Kindness in Relationship Venue

Do you remember … the  5 Vital Venus of life?  Self; Home; Relationships; Work/business/school;  Community/POW (place of worship)

Here are some suggestions for  the Relationship Venue – Do something kind and loving for family members and friends, today.

  1. Make breakfast in bed for loved one
  2. Phone call to family member, to say ‘i love you’
  3. Write a letter/card to friend, family expressing sincere care, concern, admiration…
  4. A long walk with child, or a bike ride
  5. Visit sick family member or friend in hospital or at home
  6. Help a neighbor with yard work, garbage disposal, or with a house plant
  7. Compliment a child – sincerely and substantively
  8. Help a child with homework
  9. Give your partner  or your child 30 minutes of dedicated listening time
  10. Leave love notes in lunchboxes and book bags and briefcases and handbags
  11. Send a financial gift to someone who needs it, unexpectedly and even anonymously
  12. Send a thank-you note to a friend or family – for doing what they always do
  13. Share a funny story or cartoon with someone who needs a laugh
  14. Get family members, staff or friends to sign a card with love notes for someone
  15. Buy an inspirational book for a friend
  16. Tell ALL your family members how much you appreciate the
  17. Call and visit the senior members of your family

Have fun with these, do as many as you can and watch how your heart swells with joy.

This 21 Days of Kindness event has been a magical experience – today is day 19.  I URGE you, if you haven’t fully committed to daily acts of kindness yet, it’s NEVER too late.  Never, ever too late.

Kindness is a powerful way to BE the change we wish to see in the world… one interpretation of Gandhi’s profound quote.

In Light and With MUCH Love,

The Quick List – 10 “Selfish” Acts of Kindness

There are 5 Vital Venus of life: Self; Home; Relationships; Work/Business/School; Community/POW (place of worship.)

To life a whole and balanced life – no lopsided happiness or success – being engaged in these Five Vital Venues is essential.

The first venue is ‘self.’  Why?  Because we can’t be kind to others without first being kind to our self.  Like everything else in life.

Here are some suggestions

  1. Hug yourself
  2. Look at yourself in the mirror and say something nice
  3. FORGIVE yourself for ALL that you have failed to do
  4. FORGIVE yourself for ALL that you have done
  5. Buy yourself a small and symbolic token of appreciation…for being a wonderful and kind  person
  6. Take a few hours off from your routine and do something fun
  7. Read a book that lifts you up
  8. Call someone who you know LOVES you and ask them to tell you what they love most
  9. Sign up for a fun/hobby workshop
  10. Write yourself a gratitude note and place it on your bathroom mirror

Do as many acts of kindness for yourself as you can…and feel free to welcome and enjoy the kindness shown to you by others.  Very important!

Can you add one act of kindness to this list?  That would really be quite kind of you! 🙂

It’s World Kindness Day! LOOK for ways to be kind!

Today is the 13th day of our 21 Days of Kindness event.  1500+ have signed on to this event.  Interest from as far away as India – Radioone in Mumbia has contacted us,  (Malini Agarwal , a 21 Days of Kindness participant and Facebook friend) to help in spreading the kindness bug.  It is contagious you know 🙂 .

It is VERY exciting, this adventure of kindness.

On of our first signups was Nakeva N. Corothers ( follow her on Twitter .)  With great enthusiasm she wrote a blog entry endorsing the event – without being asked!  Too cool.

Nakeva was in touch the other day, sharing her acts of kindness with us, she listed some here. In an email to me she said “I find I’m looking for opportunities every day to be kind and remind others to do the same. ”  That struck me as the basis for a truth that gets ignored often…(isn’t it something how the most truthful ‘truths’ are hardest to remember, most times? )

By looking for ways to be kind, you will end up being more kind. It’s that simple.  If we approach each day knowing we have to find a way today, to be kind in a specific way, we will be aware and senses will be heightened for kindness opportunities.   Seek and ye shall find.

Quick experiment:  Look around the room you’re in, right now.  Quick look.  Now close your eyes and try to remember how much brown – the color brown – you saw.  Now open your eyes and see how much brown you see now, now that you’re looking for it.  Are you seeing more brown?  Chances are you are.

That’s because when you know what you’re looking for, you are more apt to find it. Simple.

Anyway, in honor of World Kindness Day I’d like to celebrate Nakeva, Malini – who has a group dedicated to good deeds on Facebook, by the way, and ALL of you wonderful participants of 21 Days of Kindness.

The purpose of World Kindness Day is to go beyond our borders – personal, national, cultural.   Honoring all of you from all over the world, seems perfect to me.  I urge you to look for kindness, beyond your comfort zone, beyond your circles of comfort.

There you will find a miracle.

You are beautiful people with loving spirits. I’m honored to be your friend.  You could have easily ignored this invitation but you didn’t.  That moment of choice when you clicked ‘Yes’ was a divine moment and spoke volumes about your heart.

Thank You so much for caring.

With Love,



Kindness…3 Points to Guide You

1000 people on Facebook (now 1150, a day later!!) are spreading kindness all over the world.

Just imagine!  Small acts of kindness bouncing from one to the other to the other…inspiring to no end!

This is day #4 of a 21 day kindness initiative- see post below.  21 days because that’s how long it takes to develop a new habit, according to Dr. Maxwell Maltz.

We’re creating a powerful new habit.  One that will transfer into every area of life.  Very exciting!

Here is a 3 point guide to focus your efforts:

1. Be specific. It’s about focused kindness.  Deciding to be kind is a wonderful decision.  Sounds great and for some people it might even be enough to bring about a breakthrough in thought and behavior.  But here’s the thing, MOST people need more structure, discipline and practice.   In creating a new habit, repetition is key.  Discipline is imperative.  New behaviors don’t get formed with random and unfocused behavior.

So, each day make a specific decision to do a kind thing, for someone in particular. Do this for 21 days straight and you will find yourself habitually kind at the end of this period.

Another advantage to the focused kindness approach is this – someone gets to benefit  each day and they will pass the kindness forward.  It just happens naturally, no need to ask them to!

With focused kindness that personal human connection is more likely to be made.

2. Pebble in the pond: You know what happens when you throw a pebble into a pond? It ripples outward from where the pebble lands. Imagine those circles moving outward.

This is how your kind acts should flow. Starting with those closest to you, be kind on a daily basis. This doesn’t mean you have to perform an act of kindness towards every member of your family and close friends, before moving onto colleagues and then strangers. Not at all.  What you have to be careful of is withholding kindness from those closest to you while you make the world happy. Not an authentic approach to kindness. Just keep the pebble in mind.  First circles first. (Kindness towards your self is assumed here – can’t give love and kindness to others if you withhold it from yourself!)

3. Stretch! If writing notes is something you do often and is very easy for you, that’s great. Do some of that for sure.

If smiling at strangers however is something you struggle with, make up your mind to do a good bit of that. The goal is to become more comfortable with a range of kindness actions. Some personal growth along the way is a wonderful by-product.

So stretch, grow, go beyond your comfort zone.

Together these 3 guidelines will bring variety, fun and authenticity to your kindness efforts.

Full commitment to this effort will be very rewarding.  More people will be touched.  Your tree of kindness will blossom and bear perpetual fruits of kindness.

Have fun with this process, take time to feel the joy of being kind.

Are there some guidelines you use that others would benefit form hearing about?  Please share them here.

And please tell us about your experiences and people’s reactions to your acts of kindness.   Stories are so motivating! 🙂

Have a joy filled, peaceful and loving day or evening…and thank you so much for being part of this effort to “BE the change we wish to see in the world.” (Gandhi)

Wishing you Love, Peace and Joy…all possible through kindness