The following message is intended for participants of the 75 Days of Action Challenge on Facebook.

Previous messages are posted here ► Nov 9 – Nov 13 ► 5 messages

Day 3 Message here ► Nov 14th

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Hello wonderful self-disciplined people!

[For anyone joining us late, all previous messages are here: first 5 messages are at the event wall and they are also posted here ► http://bit.ly/1RaMh7 Day 3 ‘s message is here ► Top Ten Self-Discipline Habits to Create ► http://bit.ly/48iQsA ]

Well here it is day 5 of our 21 days of self-discipline! I hope you had a little mini celebration yesterday as suggested. It is good to reward yourself appropriately – just as you would anyone else, as it is deserved and helps with keeping the enthusiasm level where it needs to be to stay in daily action.

It takes some self-discipline to remain committed to something. It does. We discussed this very point at a reading group meeting yesterday…we meet to discuss a great book by Dr. Therman Evans called From Purpose to Promise Driven Life: A Prescription For Making The Difference You Were Born to Make, at 6:45 on Sunday mornings.

THAT takes some serious commitment!

Anyway, as we discussed “commitment” which is the first principle of a ‘promise driven life,’ we acknowledged the challenge of remaining fully engaged from day to day and discussed some approaches that work…writing the goal, visualizing the outcome, knowing your “why” are a few.

Whatever it is what is clear is this: you MUST have a plan for remaining fully engaged. I strongly suggest that you permit yourself to surrender to this process; Honor this process and permit it to work for you. Open your heart and mind to doing what is asked. Engage with the other brilliant participants – PLEASE visit the event wall, the comments there today (and before) were magnificent!! Thank you Nina, thank you Ulla and others…

In terms of specific action steps, here’s what I suggest for today:

1) Revisit your journal and read those things you wrote before the program began. Read and elaborate where you can.

2) Re-write your goal, your desired outcomes for this program

3) Sit and visualize – with specific and emotionally charged clarity – how you will BE when you complete this 21 day journey…then

4) Visualize further…on January 23, 2010…how will your life be different? With as much detail as you can muster, imagine and write about how you will personally be better, how will your relationships be impacted? What about your business and family life? Imagine and write with detail. Include pictures, videos and any thing that would bring the visualization to life.

5) Examine your ‘why.’ Be clear on the benefits…know WHY you are doing this.

6) Write or print at least 3 powerful affirmations connected with your visualization and place them in places where you will see them daily. We MUST speak to our sub-conscious mind if we wish to change what’s going on there.

7) State these affirmations OUT LOUD as often as you can. Believing is essential to achieving.

Check in with your accountability partner and use this list as a checklist…each of you taking time – and use a timer if needed – to share about your ACTION with these requests.

9) Have you made ANY progress with any of those ‘bad habits’ we looked at earlier? Without working directly with these issues, you should expect to benefit from the constancy of your positive and powerful daily actions…explore the subtle changes and inclinations

10) Be sure to do both your symbolic and challenging actions…EVERY DAY.

If the challenging action is not something that should be done every single day, make the adjustment BUT be sure to at least think and write about the activity daily.

The symbolic action is daily, no exceptions.

Continue having fun, stay connected and find someone to be kind to today: Someone new.

Spread the joy of your life.  It is so joyous, isn’t it, to take charge, get fired up and actually DO something powerful with this life we are granted?

So be grateful and find someone, and pay it forward.

Wishing you an abundance of peace, joy and light,
Julette Millien
♥~

Hello!

As I wrote a message to the participants of “75 Days of Action Challenge” this morning – this is a facebook event, see details here – the thought occurred: 

What are some of the most popular success habits people have worked on with me over the years? I thought you might benefit from knowing this.

Today I asked you to[ request #2]

“Select another thing to do DAILY…this time, let it be something that you KNOW will impact your life tremendously. Let it be something that will take some EFFORT. Is there something you’ve been putting off or doing in a stop and start fashion that you KNOW, by doing this thing you would take your life to a whole other level of existence?

We all have those sorts of actions…actions that, if taken, will form powerful success habits that will impact EVERY area of our life. Discuss with your accountability partner – try SKYPE, btw – but DECIDE today and START TODAY.”

So here’s the top ten list for self-discipline:

1. Bedtime/Wake-up routine that WORKS. - Going to bed early enough to get up at the time needed to have the day start right is a habit successful people ALWAYS reference as a key to their success.  Not only does our bodies and minds REQUIRE adequate sleep and rest, but rising early enough to get those quiet things done impacts the rest of my day every time.
2. An attitude of gratitude - having a habit of saying and meaning “thank you” throughout your day is powerful.  What we are grateful for expands in our life.  I’m presently [as it has not always been the case] in the habit of saying thank-you for the challenges as well.  The really are tomorrow’s blessings. This has been demonstrated more times than I can count. Thank everybody for everything – not just with words, but with your attitude and actions. Be grateful!
3. Reading and Learning – being on a continuous quest for knowledge about the world, your self, your “work,” parenting, technology, etc.  My pastor suggests committing to learning at least one new thing per day.
4. Exercise. Need I say more?  Whether it’s in the gym, walks or play…all successful people schedule some sort of physical activity that keeps them alive, healthy and well.
5. Eating well. Another obvious one.  Limiting caffeine, alcohol, sugars and general junk food is essential for good health.  Good health is an essential aspect of “success.”  Successful people understand that their health is directly linked to their creativity, energy level, mindset, emotions and output.
6. SMILING – yes, smiling:-) .  I’ve worked with several people and actually live with one very successful person – my husband, who has worked on “smiling” more as a priority habit.  It’s not just about the smile…it’s the spirit of optimism behind it.  It’s the commitment to joy and laughter behind it.   Optimistic, joyful people produce more and do more.  Did the success lead to the smile or the smile to the success? Well a whole book can be written about that one…suffice it to say, if all a person has to smile about is their success, they are anchored to a moving target and are dependent upon outside factors.   Not a good thing.  Smile easily, frequently, deeply!  It’s a tonic for the mind, body and soul.  It breeds success.
7. Be STILL…that would be the habit of PAUSE.  As with sentences – can you just imagine this blog without punctuation?! So is a life without stillness and pause and rest.  Be still long enough to connect to your source.  For me that is God.  Successful people know how to tune out and get re-energized.  Stillness is the most powerful way to do this. It’s called meditation by some.  But don’t get confused with technique, just get still, get present and permit your mind to concede ‘power.’  Thoughts and thinking can really keep a person busy, even when they’re sitting still. The idea is to tune into your deeper source, not your patterned thoughts and self-centered cares.
8. Deep Breathing. ..which by the way is what you can do when you pause throughout the day.   Breath, deep breath is a habit that is MOST understated and underestimated.  It’s actually not one that gets mentioned often by folks I coach.  But I have to bring it up because it’s pivotal to success. Breathing  from your diaphragm  is breathing to excel. That’s the kind of breath that pushes the needed substance into our blood stream to our brain. We simply need oxygen and all that’s in it for a reason: LIFE!  Ask any high performing athlete or performer, they will tell you about the power of breath.
9. Patience & Calm. This is the habit to develop if you struggle with anger, intolerance, hasty decisions, dependencies, worry, anxiety, disorganization, and more.  Having a habit of patience allows you to remain present – not in the past, full of anxiety and not in the future, full of worry. Of course there are other characteristics and habits that would would need  to be developed to support this place of patience and peace.  Successful people know what the “small stuff” is and they know how impotent and effective  it is to fight against circumstances outside their control. They’re wise.
10. Forgiveness.  Having a habit of letting things go, releasing, not taking offense, not holding on to guilt is most powerful.  And of course with this habit and mindset, patience, calm, inner peace, joy, stillness, smiling, gratitude, creativity, kindness, productivity, accountability, self-discipline…all flow naturally  and powerfully.

I’m recovering from a serious bout of guilt…and finally self-forgiveness.  See my entry here about it.

I know…2, 9 & 10 are not as simple and straightforward as the others…they require more soul searching but you can create specific action steps to build these success habits into your life.  As for the others, they each require a commitment that is lasting and anchored to your plan for your life.

These are the habits over the years that  people -  super successful people – have identified as having the most impact in their lives because they developed the habit of self-discipline and self-mastery.    Not just in their business life but in the entire of  their life – personal, relationships, community, home life and work life.

These are the self-discipline “watershed habits,” create these and many others  will follow.

So look over this list again and tell me if the action you selected to focus on falls into any of these categories.  I’d be curious to hear what you are working towards – whether it’s listed here or not. So be in touch.

Wishing you an abundance of peace, joy and light,

Julette Millien

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H E L  L O   — The messages below were sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on days 20 and 21 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello!

Just a quick reminder to sow what you would like to reap; give what you would like to receive and to see in others what you would like them to see in you.

Be generous, be kind and be compassionate.

God Bless.
Julette Millien
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As God would have it, I came through the event wall planning to send a very brief message…for today…with a fuller concluding message in a day or so. (I am running from function to function and just would rather not delegate the joy of communicating with this lovely group of non-complainers!)

So I took a brief look at the wall…and like a gift left for us all, two wonderful souls left a word, or two. Very inspiring and very wise.

See below ▼

Thank you all for being on this journey with me and please enjoy these comments, then visit the event wall and share with us….

GIVE AS MANY COMPLIMENTS AS POSSIBLE TODAY! And let us know how much fun you had!

Have a MAGNIFICENT DAY!!

Those in the US, be safe and have great fun on Labor Day!

I’ll be in touch.

Peace & Love,

Julette ♥~

Arielle Kelly said…
It’s hard to believe it’s almost over…I have had a transformation in self and circumstances…some kind of wonderful synchronicity of events happened, including some ups and downs, but the air is different now…this has been like a spring cleaning for my soul and i thank you all and love you all.

Pam Lewis shared:

A Parting Thought: Do Less

Do Less Thinking, and pay more attention to your heart.
Do Less Acquiring, and pay more attention to what you already have.
Do Less Complaining, and pay more attention to giving.
Do Less Controlling, and pay more attention to letting go.
Do Less Criticizing, and pay more attention to complementing.
Do Less Arguing, and pay more attention to forgiveness.
Do Less Running Around, and pay more attention to stillness.
Do Less Talking, and pay more attention to silence.

To all my fellow Non-Complainers…do well, love well, live well!
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GoDoBe ♥~

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 19 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello!

Why do we complain? Something is:  offensive, worrisome, bothersome, perceived as a hindrance, are some of the answers I’ve gotten.

What’s your answer?

Write about this in your NO COMPLAINING journal.

As you peel that onion of an answer back a bit, you will no doubt get to a place of un-forgiveness.

Whether it’s forgiving yourself for complaining or forgiving yourself for getting into the situation you’re complaining about or forgiving yourself for being stuck in a complaining place for a long time over some issue…WHATEVER it is, you must forgive yourself for, that’s just it, you MUST forgive yourself!

A lack of forgiveness is the cancer that grows in our spirit and emotions that creates the environment for complaints.

So what can you release today? What can you forgive yourself for?

Who can you forgive today? WHO are you blaming for something? That state of blame is a complaint that took a seat in your life.

When will you open the door and say good-bye to blame?

If it were possible and you could RELEASE ALL that has you tied to a state of un-forgiveness…release all the baggage of regrets, blame, judgment, worry, agitation, complaints, etc…if you could RELEASE it all today, what could you do with the space created?

For one, I know you’d become a compliment factory!!
(How about giving five fabulous compliments today?)

So,

• Consider these questions and ideas.
• Reflect on your answers
• Go deeper than the surface
• Peel the onion back, write, pray and meditate…whatever you do to get to your source.
• Get there and stay for a bit.

Have a magnificent day my wonderful friends — to commit to no complaints for 21 days makes you a VERY special group of people and I am not looking forward to the end of our connection …:-)

Wishing you Peace, Love & Light…and LIGHTNESS too!

Julette Millien
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H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 18 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello!

Thank you Arielle for the reminder of Pam’s prayer…it is lovely.

Pam Lewis shared this:

“Today I Pray

May the word freedom take on new meanings for me, not just “freedom from” my addiction of complaining, but “freedom to” overcome it. Not just freedom from the slavery of self-will, but freedom to hear and carry out the will of my Higher Power.

Today I Will Remember

Freedom from means freedom to.
(the freedom FROM complaining means the freedom TO give, see and share more love)”

This is powerful because it takes what could be a passive statement and turns it into an active statement of intent.

I am not only interested in “freedom FROM” something but I am also claiming the freedom TO DO something.

What are the things you’d like to DO more of?

What’s holding you back?

Reflect today on what might need to be released (become free from) in order to be free to DO…

THANK YOU Pam!

Have a magnificent day as you share compliments freely and refrain from complaining in thought or deed.

GoDoBe

With Love,

Julette Millien

♥~

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 17 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello Hello,

This morning as I silently sat and was still the answer came to the question, “what should I tell the ‘no complainers’ today?”

“Tell them about love and fear” the answer came after only about 1 minute of silence.

That was fast, I thought.

Love and Fear...the connection to complaining and complimenting is this:

Love in your heart, your thoughts, your emotions, your spirit, produces gratitude, COMPLIMENTS for others and for yourself, wisdom, other-centeredness, forgiveness, perspective, joy, peace, grace, mercy, lasting legacies, activism, accountability, and on and on.

Fear in your heart, thoughts, emotions and spirit produces angst, irritation, COMPLAINTS, intolerance, worry, unforgiveness, false pride, inflated ego, passive aggressiveness – you know, where you say you’re not complaining but internally you’re a ball of fury, impatience, self-centeredness, anxiety, etc, etc.

I suggest to you with every opportunity you have today to choose fear or to choose love, CHOOSE LOVE.

Choose love when you are in traffic and feel tempted to complain
Choose love when your child disappoints you – say it with love
Choose love when a neighbor, friend or family member is hostile
Choose love when a colleague takes all the credit for a team effort
Choose love when you are excluded from ANYTHING
Choose love when you are blamed or accused falsely
Choose love when someone stops loving you or showing you love
Choose love when you forgive without an apology
Choose love when someone complains to you
Choose love when your love is ignored
Choose love when your mind or thought or emotions say different
Choose love.

Have a deeply loving and joy-filled day.
Julette Millien
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H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 16 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello!

I am blessed by this effort – your messages and participation are heart warming. Thank you so very much.

Today I must be very brief.

1)  Please observe very closely how your thoughts pop up today. When a complaint begins to form…just observe, become an observer, a journalist and just observe. See if you can get any insights about how and when you begin to get a hint of complaining in your spirit/emotions/thinking.

2)  Write about what you find.

3)  Compliment three different people today.

4)  Let yourself be one of them.

5)  Have a magnificent time with these activities!

Oh – 6) how about a random act of kindness today? That’s one sure way to have a truly magnificent day.

Wishing you an abundance of love, peace and light,

Julette Millien

♥~

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event – 21 Days of No Complaining on day 15 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello!

If you recall our journey had 4 parts to it – and it’s based on a fast from complaining I participated in at my church. Dr. Therman Evans, my Pastor led the journey. His facebook fan page is here:

► http://www.facebook.com/drThermanEvans

Here are the steps we committed to: (from event wall)

1.  Refrain from negative comments: speak positive and think positively about our self, family, friends, neighbors and others.
2.  Complain about nothing: be complimentary about everything and everybody.
3.  Look for what is good in everything.
4.  Ask God for a transformation (Romans 12:1-2).

[Take me to the next level of promise, take my relationship to the next level of promise, take my place of worship to the next level of promise]

So far we’ve been concentrating pretty well on 1, 2 and 3.

Today I’m suggesting that we focus on #4

ASK God (insert, based on your culture and beliefs the name of your source) for what you’d like to have in your life, with specific regard to the transformation required to turn a complaining disposition into a consistently optimistic and love centered one.

ASK for it. Don’t just assume it’ll come. Often we fail to ask for what we seek in life and that blocks the process of receiving.

ASK a loved one to have a different relationship, one based on no complaining. Go through all your relationships, and one by one, ASK for the transformation you seek for each one.

SEE yourself as fully transformed. Visualize the way you will be speaking to yourself, to your family, friends, children, students, colleagues, neighbors, mentors, clients, strangers, customer service reps, support staff, employees, service professionals, etc, etc,

VISUALIZE these conversations.

CELEBRATE your success to date!! Because what you see as you visualize is what you have created!

Have a magnificent day my dear friends!

Peace, Love and Joy to each of you.

Julette Millien
♥~

All previous messages are here ►http://successhabitsin21days.com

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event - 21 Days of No Complaining on day 14 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello Lovely People!

Day 13 went by without a message…the day flew by with one meeting or activity after another! I missed connecting with you!

And today I will simply suggest that you:

1)  Find 10 minutes to be completely alone. Use that time as you see fit with this one guideline: Whatever you do let it be positive and affirming.

2)  Then find the good in as many people and situations as you can.

Reflect on this goodness.

3)  Compliment often and sincerely…all through the day!

4) Complain about nothing.

Wishing you ABUNDANT love, joy and light!

Julette Millien
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P.S. Previous messages are here► http://successhabitsin21days.com

H E L  L O   — The message below was sent to the participants of the Facebook event - 21 Days of No Complaining on day 12 of our journey together.  See event details here.

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Hello Lovely People,

I hope this message reaches you in the best of health.

I’ve got a few questions:

1)    What purpose does complaining serve in your life? (see event wall for Lana’s insightful thoughts on this)

Consider this question seriously. It’s not meant to be a trick question. If you have a habit of complaining chances are it’s filling some void or providing some benefit.

Consider what that might be. Getting to the root of the what’s behind our actions provides valuable insight.

When we cast the light of knowledge and compassion on an issue it’s much more likely to be changed.

Habits are powerful and persistent. Changing them takes persistence, honest assessments, compassion and daily action.

2)   What pains, hurts and unresolved issues exists in your life that might be making it easier to have a complaining mindset?

Honor what exists.

3)   What else can you do to fill the need complaining fills?

4)   What have you been able to accomplish with the space you created by NOT complaining?

5)   What changes do you need to make in your life to maintain a NO COMPLAINING lifestyle?

Suggested activities:

1)   Make a list of all your good and positive qualities – acknowledge and honor these aspects of yourself.

2)   Forgive yourself for all — ALL – of your “mis-takes” All together they’ve added to who you are…which #1 activity says you’re pretty magnificent!

Have a wonderful day/evening…filled with love, peace, joy and light,

Julette Millien

♥~

Again, previous messages are all at http://successhabitsin21days.com
Begin at August 8th – just click on the calendar.